Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Lifestyle Thai-style (Part 2)

I am now 75% through my time of service in Thailand. This country has grown on me in so many ways, and I feel as though I am a part of it, I know for certain that it has become a part of me. There are parts of Thai culture that I absolutely love and that I have embraced and adopted, and there are other parts that just are what they are. As my time here is winding down, I realize more and more the many, many aspects of this lifestyle that I've become accustomed to that will be no more when I get to the other side.

To continue from my previous post, here are just a few more examples.

4.    Culture of Rice... Rice is engrained in many aspects of Thai culture, economy, and overall lifestyle. Up until recently, Thailand was the world's largest exporter of rice, now second to India. One informal way to greet someone is to ask "Gin kaao ru yang?" (Have you eaten rice yet?) in lieu of the more standard "Sabaai dii mai?" (Are you well?/How are you?). The general term for eating (gin kaao) literally translates to "eat rice" and the terms breakfast, lunch, and dinner, literally translate to morning rice, noon rice, and evening rice. To ask someone what they've eaten, one would say "Gin kaao gap aria?" (what did you eat with your rice?). As you may have guessed, rice is not only a part of everyday conversation, but the central part of every meal, and many desserts. It was quite the interestingly pleasant surprise the first time I bought  ice-cream in Thailand and found rice at the bottom of my cup.  At most meals, each person is served a bowl of rice and a variety of dishes are placed in the middle of the table for everyone to help themselves. It is considered disrespectful and unacceptable for a person not to finish their serving of rice.
Kaao niiao mamuang -- Sticky Rice and Mango
My  new favorite dessert! (next to cheesecake)

A rice coconut snack

Learning to make a dessert
rice cooked in coconut milk and a small slice of banana
wrapped in banana leaf
Fun for everyone LOL
Not too shabby, eh?


Blue Dyed Rice

Can you tell what's missing? 
I've been asked, "Do you ever eat rice in America?" and I'm sometimes met with a shocked response when I say that I do. Some Thai people tend to think that the equivalent to rice in America is bread. I've had to explain on many occasions that Americans don't eat hamburgers and subway sandwiches for every single meal. In fact, I recently developed a sensitivity to gluten (found in wheat, rye, and barley) and my host family's initial response was basically, "how will you ever survive when you get back to America when all they eat over there is bread?" Sure, we have terms like "bread winner" and "daily bread" but we don't have national holidays and ceremonies to commemorate the plowing of wheat.


Celebrating Father's Day with Rice Games!
We change it up occasionally. For my host mom's birthday, we had hot pot!.
5.    Alcohol… Many Most social interactions in this region of Thailand include alcohol, specifically beer and whiskey. There are areas of Thailand where it is not customary for women to drink alcohol, but where I live, everybody drinks, all the time. There is no such thing as waiting until five o’clock. At dinners and social gatherings, the host takes pride in making sure that each person’s glass is full for the duration of the event. The usual options at such gatherings are beer, whiskey, and water, so I drink lots and lots of water. Sometimes there is Coke, but I don’t drink caffeinated drinks either. There is hardly ever any sort of juice or non-caffeinated drink option, so yes, lots and lots of water. Being happy and having a good time is very important in this culture, and although there are the negative social, domestic, health, and safety implications of this manner of alcohol consumption, they don't seem to weigh as heavily as the importance of having a good time. 

Lunch-time with the teachers at school.
We had a visitor, so the good stuff was brought out.
6.    Motocy… The motorbike, or motocy as the Thais say, is the main mode of transportation in most communities throughout Thailand. It's not unusual to see a family of three or four sitting on a single bike, I see pre-teens riding motocy's full speed throughout the community, the older kids ride these bikes to and from school, I've seen people carrying live chicken on their motocy's, I've seen dogs of all sizes driven around on these bikes, people load their motocys with small and medium sized pieces of furniture, large water jugs, tons of shopping bags, parcels, luggage, and just about anything that you can imagine putting in a car. Some motocy’s even have baby seats, and I'm almost positive that I saw a mother nursing her baby on a moving bike. 

Taking a ride with the dog. Why not?
It's amusing, even awe-inspiring sometimes to see how creatively people are able to arrange and maneuver themselves and their belongings to get from point to point. It's disturbing though, to see that many riders do not wear helmets or exercise much caution when riding. I've seen people talking and texting on cell phones, riding shirtless at high speeds, dangerously weaving in and out of high traffic, I've seen both passengers and drivers eating and drinking while riding, then there is also the issue of drunk driving. My own little community has seen a handful of bike accidents and fatalities during the time that I've been here. This is a huge issue country wide, especially during times of festivities and merriment. 
 
Peace Corps prohibits volunteers from operating any motorized vehicle, and from riding (even as passengers) on motorcycles. Doing so can result in immediate termination or expulsion from service. I do my part to set a good example to my students and community by always wearing my helmet when I ride my bicycle (regardless to the fact that not wearing a helmet can also result in immediate termination of service). I teach my students bike and helmet safety, and even though many of them may not be able to access or afford helmets, I've taught them other ways that they can be safe and cautious on the road. I hope that my students, and everyone else for that matter, can avoid the tragedy of motorcy injury or fatality.

Students riding to school
Some people attach carts to their motorbikes to carry crops and produce. 
And sometimes, children.
What is a culture without quirks? Sometimes it seems like there is a YOLO mentality at play - you only live once, so have fun, be merry, take risks, enjoy life. Interesting twist though, Thai/Buddhists actually believe in multiple lives through reincarnation, and that each life should be lived fully and well. Here are a few snippets of how I've been living my life...

Sunday, September 20, 2015

Lifestyle Thai-style (Part 1)

It's been over twenty months since I've arrived in Thailand. It's amazing to think of how far I've come, how I've adopted the language and adapted to the culture, how the little rural village in Isaan has become my community and my home, and how the people here have become my family and my friends. What started as an adventure has become my life.  


As my time here is winding down, I realize more and more that there are so many aspects of this lifestyle that I've become accustomed to seeing, doing, and dealing with that will be no more when I get to the other side. Here are a few examples (I originally had fifteen, then cut it down to ten, then decided to publish in three parts for readability)

1.    Removing Shoes... It is standard Thai etiquette to remove shoes before entering a building, most specifically temples and homes. I’ve heard something to the effect of spirits living in the soil that should be left outside. It is common to remove shoes before entering some shops and offices, and children remove their shoes before entering the classroom. Even the U.S. Peace Corps office in Bangkok follows the no-shoes custom. When I first came to Thailand, I thought that this meant that I'd have to keep my feet presentable i.e. pedicured all the time, but on the contrary, barefeet are so commonplace, that nobody really pays any mind to what their toes look like. Even so, I still take personal pleasure in treating myself to a regular pedicures. Coming from a place where many see this barefoot practice as "earthy" or even unsanitary, I've come to see the practicality of leaving the dirt outside, and I can see myself continuing this practice, or at least a variation of leaving shoes at the door, when I have my own place again.
Similar signs can be found just about everywhere
My students stretch their toes as they do their work

Students all wear the same shoes!


In the temple, no shoes allowed.
2.    Wai… This gesture of putting hands together (like prayer hands) and lifting them is used in greeting and farewell, and also to show respect and gratitude. There are different forms of wai, a wai is usually done with a bowed head. The degree to which the hands are raised and the head is bowed varies across situations. Typically, the person with lower social ranking makes the first wai, sometimes the superior or senior person would not wai in return, but may nod and maybe smile in acknowledgement, likewise, it is usually  not necessary or expected for adults to return a wai to children. A wai is sometimes used in meetings when a person wishes to be excused from a room or reenters the room, this individual will wai before making his exit or before returning to his seat. People also wai to show respect to religious symbols (artifacts, images, temples, statues, shrines, and other structures), it is not uncommon to hear drivers honk in lieu of a wai when passing shrines on the side of the road, and I certainly have seen drivers do single handed, and even double handed wais when passing temples. Because I am a foreigner, a lot of people, children especially, are happy to wave to me and shake my hands in greeting, it's like a mini cultural exchange exercise. I always wai in formal settings, when meeting someone for the first time, and to show respect to individuals of high social ranking, but there are times when I opt to exercise the liberty of being a foreigner and just smile and wave.


Students Wai Teachers on Teacher Appreciation Day,
which is actually called
Wan Wai Kru (Day to Wai the Teacher)
Wai-ing with friends at a temple that we visited on a recent retreat
also note our bare feet!
Wai-ing with friends and dinosaurs 
Even Ronald Wais in Thailand!
 3.    Affection… In rural Thailand, it is rare to see men and women, even married couples, showing affection, even holding hands, whether in public or in the presence of others in their own homes. I, myself, am not big on PDA (public displays of affection), but the complete absence of it between couples struck me as as interesting. Even more interesting is how much more common it is to see closeness and affection being displayed within gender groups, especially among men and boys. By affection, I’m referring to hugs, hand holding, arm over shoulder, head lean on shoulder, playful physical contact, and the sort (non-sexual contact) and not the prevalence of ladyboys. I've observed that boys and men, regardless to age or orientation, are comfortable being brotherly and playful without physical aggression or competition, which is quite different to my observations of typical male socialization in American cultures. 


Isn't it interesting how displays of love and respect vary across cultures?  See the short video below for other snippets and observations of my everyday life.

To Be Continued!
 
Part 2
Part 3